Self-love, for some reason, has been a restricted topic for a generation or two before mine (please, correct me if I am wrong).
My generation, Gen Z, embraces self love and we are often perceived as we are doing something negative.
In reality, let’s break it down.
Self love sits close with things like confidence, ambitions and actions. Self love drives you to do and explore new things chasing your ambitions, taking actions and be bold and confident in your decisions.
I say - yes, I love myself and I encourage everyone to do it. Self love makes me believe in myself, believe in my aspirations and my ideas.
I have strange ideas sometimes and I know that, in order to get them to the final point to take an action, I need some courage to go through judgements of other people. Self love helps - I just turn my‘don’t give a f*ck attitude’ , I fight for my dreams and ideas because they came out from my mind.
When you love yourself, other people will have a choice to love or to hate you - well, it is up to them. The right people will stay with you, will find you and will ‘catch the same wave’ with you.
When you don’t love yourself, you don’t give them any choice of emotions so don’t be surprised: your disappointment is not just a matter of accident.
We were taught about altruism in its very raw meaning in schools and early learning places - I believe this is the WORST lesson that any kid can be taught.
Altruism is a will to help someone without thinking about your own needs…It is not one-off action, you feel committed to perform this one-way help regularly. Well, if you are not a robot you DO have needs! At the end of the day, you want to feel good, have your bills paid, have a good meal, have a great sex, be loved and experience nice things addressed to you. So, what happens when someone tells you that it is wrong? Altruism is good ONLY when it’s in one line with your own values.
You feel blamed and ashamed of feeling good, you don’t want to chase better stuff in life, you are ashamed of your ambitions and prefer not to think about them becoming a ‘servant’?
It is not going to last long - life is too short and time goes too fast - when you look around at lost time and opportunities you will most likely be looking at a person next to you to blame for it. In reality, that person has never been set to be responsible for your own choices.
Love yourself! Share what you love - someone will be happy to share it with you. Someone will not - who cares. You attract people with similar values; you will unite with people of similar attitude and you will help each other to grow. It is a two-way communication and experience.
You wellbeing should be a priority. We, humans, tend to spread our feelings like virus. If you really want to be altruistic, you should spread good vibes, good thoughts and ideas that are generated under the influence of positive thoughts and good feeling about yourself.
When you manage to do it, you will be able to help many more people and you will feel altruistic about it.
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When you love yourself, you inspire others with your achievements. And you have courage to make these achievements.
If you want to help someone, help yourself first. Do not make someone to rescue you because you have poor management of your own life.
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