We all need a moment to pause things. Pause absolutely everything. It is like starting to look at your life from the other side, becoming an observant of your own life, not a participant.
Grab a warm cup of tea or coffee, grab a comfy seat and just observe.
This happened to me. I just sat down and observed what’s going on around me. Things in a slo-mo or a pause so it gives you sufficient time to reset and recharge yourself.
I realised that there was a moment in my life when things were changing. It is like a milestone: you feel you just finished one chapter and it was so full on, informative and eventful that you still cannot turn the page and start the next chapter. This is how I felt for the last few months.
I just paused it. I decided to process properly what the last chapter of my life gave me. What was good and bad; what I learnt; who I met; why I am where I am, where I am going now, why I am going there etc.
Extracting the wisdom from “lived through” events took a lot longer than I thought at the beginning but it was so much needed. There is such a clarity in my mind that I would never be able to achieve if I didn’t pause.
At some point I realised that I was just tired. I was not physically tired. In contrast, I was full of energy to do my daily runs and exercises. I just noticed I became emotionally poor. I
couldn’t give away the same amount of emotions to my friends when I saw them. Just a feeling of “couldn’t be bothered”.
This is when I made the decision to reset completely, on the top of my already existing pause. Take a final break, short or long break, and reset your mindset based on the wisdoms extracted from the ended chapter.
We overcomplicate things. Life is a complex thing already and we make it more difficult. When you don’t know something or don’t have an answer, ask yourself a question. Then you will be able to browse the answer in your mind. What comes first: question or answer, chicken or egg?
Pausing lifestyle is a great time to ask yourself questions. It doesn’t matter who you are and what you do in life; if you are an absolutely frank and open person or a sales guy. Whatever your lifestyle is you must remember to answer honestly on the questions you ask yourself. It is not about moral choices, comfort and transparency with other people or some community expectations. It is about your own identity that can only be developed when you have an open conversation with yourself. Ideally, when things such as social media, anxiety, busyness, friends’ influence, etc are not impacting you and you can let things go. That’s why you pause everything: you don’t want this self conversation to be influenced or interrupted later.
I had my Pause and I think I got out of it a lot more than if I’d get a full on certified coaching course. I got my energy back to start the new chapter having the clearest vision I’ve ever had yet.
Take a moment and pause everything.
Ange
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