Did you notice that anything circulates in a certain paradigm? We can experience as much chaos as we are pleased, however, this chaos circulates within a certain systematic pattern.
Look at movies. We have action movies, romantic stories, horror films, fiction etc. They all have different plot points, beginnings and ends, however, if you look at any movie from the script perspective, they all have an established paradigm that rotates events, incidents, and occasions within the plot.
Look at seasons. Winter replaces autumn; Spring ends to start summer.
Look at property industry. Decline/recession stage slowly goes away, and we are on the rise. Do you remember how hot property market was during covid with super accessible interest rates? All the events are a part of a paradigm.
Our whole life is a big paradigm that contains numerous mini patterns/paradigms within the main one. One paradigm has a life span of around 4-5 years. It used to be longer (about 8-10 years), however, with the presence of digital media, numerous sources of information, globalisation and access to the broader world, the lifecycle has shortened making our lives more dynamic and fast-paced.
From the mindset perspective, it means that we have mindset shifts and “resets” every 4-5 years. We re-assess our values, directions and chosen pathways. We evaluate what serves us and what doesn’t.
SIGN OF ENDING LIFECYCLE
The most obvious sign of a lifecycle shift is feeling that everything is changing not just around you but for you.
This is when you come up to a conclusion that your current relationship is no longer serving you – you walk away.
You notice that you want to change the location – you go away, move houses, change your job.
You can also feel that your mindset requires “upgrade” – all of sudden things that you loved to do are no longer engaging for you. You explore new way of living. You test new waters.
There are exceptions, of course. And, of course, not ALL parts of your life are changing. You may feel you want to start a new job or change the city you live in but you can be in steady relationships for +100500 years. You may feel that you just want to change small things – change a car, start playing tennis, etc. It doesn’t matter how big or small your change externally, because the changes come from inside you that make you feel like “something different”.
HEAR YOUR VOICE
This is why it is so important to learn how to identify your instincts. A lot of your decisions can look “rationally wrong”. But this is exactly what stops people to feel their full potential, live their own life: a feeling that you should fit into external life paradigm. Why? Because everyone does it, follows it, listens to it, etc. Decisions that are impulsive and outside of norm are discouraged, however these are the decisions that sit within YOUR OWN PARADIGM.
Trusting your impulses can take you places. However, there are two parts of the problem:
Get courage to follow your impulses
Re-learn HOW to listen to your impulses
When we are kids, we follow instincts easily because we are not burden with all adult life, rational bullshit. When we are adults, we must bring that impulsive behaviour back through trusting your first thought, taking the first moment, developing your own point of view.
Take a moment once a day to observe how you feel about certain things. Why do you feel irritated after watching someone’s behaviour? What judgement do you have about certain things, people, and events when you first look or interact with them?
When you are deciding, try to define what YOU WANT, what YOU FEEL and what you believe YOU’RE EXPECTED TO DO. The want must be clear, the feel is your impulse, the expectation is the rational block.
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